Month: May 2013

Becoming Vanilla?

photoI sit here pondering the state of affairs in our fine country and at times many emotions seem to flow through me like tidal changes in the Bay of Fundy. One moment I’m extremely happy to see the little successes seen around the country where little bits of humanity pop up like springtime flowers and at other times I become distressed at the continued divisiveness I see flashed across the news.

I’m amazed that anything can actually get done at all with this atmosphere. Where emotion is used to “govern” a great country instead of critical thought and rational debate. Where somehow a “crisis” must be needed to bring about change and whereby executive fiat must be used to beat down a legislative process that doesn’t agree.

“So what?” you might ask. Valid question. For those of us that are following the baby boomer generation the easy answer is “I don’t know”. For Gen X, Y, Z, Millenials, and whatever you want to label them, the sensory overload of hyperconnectivity modern communications like Facebook, Twitter, and the 24 hour news cycle only serve to deaden our nerves and the true ability to feel. So what are you feeling? I don’t know… I feel kind of like “vanilla”.



Little joy is taken in what used to be labeled as fun almost as if things must be taken to an extreme to get the dopamine fix and adrenaline rush.

With all these scandals rocking the nation’s capital wouldn’t it just be a breath of fresh air to get the whole truth out to the public? and then just let the process that we’ve fought to defend for many years actually work?

I guess I’m old fashioned in that I think our leaders were voted in to actually lead, not serve their own selfish interests. Apparently I’m wrong and and left to feel, well, vanilla…


A Sad Day for Women


Rembrandt's depiction of Samson's marriage feast

I was stunned after hearing that the Florida governor vetoed a controversial bill that would limit the amount of time that alimony would be paid in divorce.


The proposal, SB 718, would have ended permanent alimony, cap alimony awards based on a person’s income

and the length of the marriage and make it easier for an ex-spouse to terminate or lower alimony payments upon retirement. It also gives parents equal custody of any children in the marriage.


The naysayers of the bill expressed much concern that divorcee’s of long term marriages would be left destitute in the long term for giving up lucrative careers to raise families, etc. The crux of the article focuses on the plight of women in making examples and completely ignores the growing converse where many women are the bigger breadwinners and forced to pay men alimony. Does Britney Spears come to mind?

Looking at the Big Picture, this bill would go a long way towards generating equality between the sexes. We’re almost there.

Here’s why its a sad day for women. For many, many years now the female gender has made major inroads into areas once dominated by males. Crashing the glass ceiling, better opportunities, etc are all within reach now for the female gender. Not passing this bill only continues to hold back women. Alimony in it’s present form hinders a woman’s ability to fully live up to her potential. Men are no longer the major bread winners for a family. In fact more and more women in our society are taking over 50% of the higher achieving jobs in our society. Women make up 53% of student populations at major Universities.


Ladies, you’ve fought this hard to break through. You’re almost there. Why allow yourselves to be held back with such antiquated laws as this?


What are you waiting for?